The ball has dropped and the New York City streets have cleared faster than Mariah Carey could exit the stage and we are already full swing into our New Years Resolutions. The uncommitted vow to change some aspect of ourselves we feel is less than desirable. We resolve to eat less sugar, drink more water, quit the job that is killing our soul slowly and to finally end bad relationships.
One week later and we are already doubting our ability to keep eating kale, to drink one more glass of water instead of wine, to dig in and search for the job we are truly after, and to stop making plans with that friend who fails to live up to very meaning of the word. But then we see an "Insta Photo" of some girl's six-pack abs, a guy driving a Ferrari and bragging how he did it by just working from home and suddenly the motivation goes back through the roof.
It would seem that the roller coaster ride that is our desire for change meets an endless road of ups and downs and while some of us learn to put our hands in the air and enjoy the ride, others are puking their brains out and trying to just survive.
So why is it that some can forge ahead in their resolutions, while others are left dizzy and confused by the entire year that flashed before their eyes?
My experience has shown me it's more than will power and determination, it's an actualization that true change needs to happen. For that person it is one step at a time. It's about setting an intention daily that adds up to 365 intentions leading to true change. The intention begins by taking a true self inventory.
"Rome wasn't built in a day," right? Can I get a fact check on that? Because at the rate I see diet pills, fad diets and fitness crazes spill over like water, you would think someone is selling the lie that it can be built in a day. Or even better that you MUST CHANGE to be HAPPY. Is that true? I must change my pant size, my job title or my zip code to somehow become more happy? The answer is no? You need to become more self-aware. What drives you to be happy might include your job or where you live, but it isn't all of who you are or what makes you happy. If we spent 2017 focused on loving ourselves, we would gradually change habits that ultimately look a lot like resolutions.
What if instead of juice cleanses and making a complete 180 with your nutrition you woke up looked at your day ahead and said how can I fuel my body to get me through the tasks I have on my schedule? Or instead of doing an insane new workout routine you explored a new class that made you want to come back? Why does everything have to be a punishment? If you truly despise the workout you are doing why are you doing? I know I'm asking a lot of questions but it's about time someone did. Food doesn't have to be boring, bland or restrictive to be healthy. You need to find balance. Don't change it overnight. Make gradual changes.